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Soft Skills To Teach Our Children

9/18/2019

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Almost without us looking, a new concept has crept into our vocabulary and added another must do to the job for parents and folks who help children grow up to be healthy, functional and wise adults. Unlike math, reading, science and social studies, soft skills are about communicating, relating with others, and self discipline. These interpersonal skills may not be taught in schools’ curriculum, but like learning to spend wisely and balance your check book, learning them is necessary to prevent problems and gain success in the future. Soft skills are really social skills that needed for interacting with others.
    So, here is one list and there are others depending on the setting.
1. Manners
Being willing to say please, thank you, you’re welcome, yes ma’am, no sir. Hold the door open for someone? You get the point
2. Communication
A willingness to look the person in the eyes and speak to them in a clear concise way to get your point across.
3. Listen
A willingness to listen when others are speaking.
4. Build rapport
A willingness to connect with face to face with people and make friends and alliances.
5. Empathy
A willingness to see another person’s point of view.
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6. A willingness to gather help from others to solve difficult tasks.
7. Self Control
A willingness to share, control anger, outbursts and other emotions, and outbursts, respect others positions and space.
8.  Self Esteem and self-Confidence
A willingness to learn to accept oneself just as he or she is.
    Remember, your child has learned many things already. Many You taught many by example. Others were learned with your instructions. Some of these suggestions won’t be new.
What’s A Person To Do?   
1. You can’t do a don’t so in your private conversations at home, instead of telling them what NOT to do, tell them what you want them To Do. “Stand up straight.” “Look her in the eyes.” “Speak Louder.”
2. Teach by example. Practice manners in your life. Always say please and thank you. Hold the door open for people and use “excuse me” and “you’re welcome.” Your children to follow suit.
3. All kids should learn a little empathy.
Expose your children to other people’s lives. Volunteer at a soup kitchen, donate items to the Salvation Army, adopt a kid for Christmas, or help put together food baskets for needy families over the holidays and deliver them together.
4. Every child needs a bit of empathy. Expose your children to other people’s lives. Volunteer at a soup kitchen, donate items to the Salvation Army, adopt a kid for Christmas, or help put together food baskets for needy families over the holidays and deliver them together.
5. Involving your child in the day to day problems of life can help build their problem solving skills. Clean up messes together, replace batteries in things, catch a fish, teach them how to run the washing machine and expect them to help washing up.
6. Kids all too often use things like good grades and popularity as metrics to measure their self-esteem. If your child gets a bad grade, tell them “it happens” and try not to make a big deal about it.
7. By far one of the most vital soft skills, self-control does not come easy for children. They have to learn no is no and how to share. Start them young on this. Arrange play dates with friends or join a local parenting group with other parents and their children.





    


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    Dr. Rachell Anderson's monthly column appears in the Tunica Times in Tunica Mississippi and the Southern Roots Magazine in Meredian, Mississippi.

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